Sometimes we need to STOP…

This was a thought I was having last week…during a time I was feeling quite mellow. We need to stop trying to OVER-Simplifying peoples problems for them. We do this by either trying to fix it for them…or pushing them to fix it for themselves.

When sometimes we are really just meant to FEEL! Sometimes I just want to soak in what it is I am feeling even if It might not be the most positive or happiest of emotions…I COULD potentially be feeling.

Why?

I fully believe as humans in our experience we are meant to feel instead of trying to slap a bandaid over everything and carrying on our merry way.

We were made to feel. We were made to process what it is we are feeling and put meaning to it. We are meant to learn and take lessons from those feelings.

That is not to say that some feelings aren’t FICKLE…and should be taken with a grain of salt. Maybe even the ficklest of emotions serves as a lamp to light our paths and keep us in the right track.

So keep in mind.

It is okay and perfect in its’ own way to have DOWN days. Life is meaningful on the cloudy days too. 💕

It is okay to take time to really process what it is your feeling,
so that you really get the depth of it.

…The DEPTH of you learning from it and your HEALING from what it is that has caused you to feel some type of way.

Protecting the Fragile Feminine Spirit

In light of recent events I have watched occur before my eyes. It is important to remember the fragileness of the spirit that a woman carries.

I have seen my friends in tears, broken for a brief part of their day…Why? Well lately a few individals I know have been having harsh attitudes and words that get thrown at them constantly. This is often by the people in their lives who should be unconditionally loving them the most—their significant others, boyfriends, husbands, & other-halves.

By the PERSON who should cherish that spirit the most!!!!

It seems though the more time goes on in some of these relationships people think less and less of how their attitudes affect one another and it becomes more and more out of control. Little bit my little bit people become bitter towards one another. You might tell yourself it is okay because you are only being a little mean. Excusing yourself of being a little mean turns into hatred and resentment that grows over time without accountability.

Be aware of your actions.

Be aware of how your words bite into depths of your love.

Protect her heart.
Protect her spirit.
Women are soft.
Do NOT yell at them. She may be fierce and brave but cruel words spoken from someone who should care the most will completely shatter that in a matter of seconds.

Yes I know. Women can be the same way but that is a post for another time. Kind words work both ways….but this post is to remind you no matter how rugged and fiesty she may be on the outside….

Her spirit is fragile from within.

Hug your Sugar Mommas a little tigthter tonight.

Xoxo Ashley

 

 

 

You can be the Voice

Think about it….

YOU just might be the VOICE that gives someone hope when they need it the most. You just might be the REASON someone chooses to CONTINUE the game instead of being a QUITTER. I read this the other day and I think it serves as an important reminder the affect the weight of our WORDS can carry.

We can use words to Carry people through: -Words of Hope

-Words of ENCOURAGEMENT.

Tell them that no matter how rough their odds might look they have the power within them to achieve their goals and make it happen.

Tell them they have the power within themselves to live a life they LOVE They can choose happiness and they can choose LIFE.

Help paint the picture for them to see. BE the PAINTBRUSH.

Here I am.

Here I am. Here I am found. The end to 2017 left me with a whirlwind of emotions which left me estranged from my blog. Writing was the last thing on my mind. I was left feeling worn, tired, and torn. In order to make room for healing and growth I focused inward and spent much time meditating on my each and every move. I have already written out a fair amount of content to share in the upcoming months and have decided to add some Vlogs to the mix as well.

I felt in 2017 that my blog did not need a face to it…I wanted people to be able to soak in my content without it needing one. However, my perspective is shifting and I believe sharing more of myself with my readers will help them to connect with me on a different playing field…Make it more “authentically me” in a way. There are also some things that I may be able express better through talking out loud it is just a different type of flow.

While I was gone…I was shocked to see how many people came back for posts and visited regularly. Thank you so much for the love. I am excited to start off 2018 with you guys.

Peace and Love

-Ashley. The voice at The Rooted Pine. <3

 

 

 

 

 

You are already loved

When discussing the topic of being loved by others it seems many people have the belief that being loved is something that is EARNED and that are certain things we MUST do to up-keep LOVE by those who we give it to.

Amongst those wondering and fickle beliefs there are TRUTHS….and there are also LIES. Love is not something that has to be EARNED. I read once that it can only be given, but for two people to love each other they must be TRUE in nature.

It’s such a deep topic to stumble upon because there is really so much MORE to love and how we share/create it within our own individual and unique lives….yet CAN love be TRUE if we are not first TRUE to ourselves and others? With the ones we love? If they are true with us?

If we are untrue in our thoughts and actions, the way we carry ourselves even…that means our love is UNTRUE as well. It means our friendships, relationships, our families and everything we think we LOVE are built on a bed of broken truths. This is an extremely unsafe foundation for taking care of the people we love.  How people can let this happen?

I have nothing left to give but fight for truth everything single time. Even if it hurts. Even if it makes everything more complicated. Maybe it was built into my design. I will always be a warrior for it….so when I see people sad and hurting because they are exhausted by trying to EARN love from others. I want them to slow down for a minute and realize that TRUE love cannot be EARNED. The people who love you…already love you for who you are every single day.

YOU ARE ALREADY LOVED. You  DO NOT have to EARN it.

 

Stop fearing

In some of my devotional notes recently I came across a topic that I don’t often come across…FEAR. Fearing what exactly?

—What we have to give and share with others in this world .

How many times might we have missed out on an opportunity to lend support, ideas, inspiration, encouragement,  or our possibly biased but selfless opinions on how to go from here on out? It is probably because we fear the possible judgment and criticism that goes along the vulnerability of sharing it with others.

Although you may have to use your best judgement on what exactly you should share...in the long run what it really comes down to is whether you believe that what you have to give will positively affect that person and benefit/help others.

For example, I feel within the last year alone I have stepped up during times I would have normally been passive. In my head alot of the time I thought helping out just seemed too risky

—Would my friends judge me?

—Are they going to interpret what I have to say in a way which is totally NOT what I am going for here? !

—Does it come off as too much?

—They are totally going to think I am nuts. 

Just some random thoughts…you know that might pop up.

Over all lately I feel like I am ruthlessly not holding back in this department. Why? I took a couple pretty big leaps into the fearful abyss of what I had to give to others in the last year…and watching myself and others grow because of those leaps is probably one of the most rewarding things I have experienced. Not only do I feel stronger emotionally and spiritually…I have acquired lasting friendships built on a foundation of trust and hope. As well as friends and family who know I will be there for them no matter what.

Let others know….you are there for them.

Let them know they are loved.

 

 

 

Your Tribe will just ARRIVE.

How many times on social media have we seen our vibe attracts our tribe?  Over and Over AGAIN.

There is so much truth to that. Better yet looking around me, I see that my tribe just kind of arrived on its own.

Alot has happened since I left highschool > went to college > moved into a house with my friends for a summer > moved back home >moved to my boyfriends town > and landed where I am right now. Looking back I notice the most important friends I have are people who just kinda appeared. They came at times when I needed them the most and they helped me grow in the ways they were meant to. I really believe that.

I know we hear it over and over again that everything is meant to be like that but do we ever actually take a step back to recognize it in our own lives?

THINK ABOUT THOSE PEOPLE. Who are they for you?

 

Do we even really realize how amazing our friends are? I mean I am so grateful for the people that have stuck by me. That’s the thing though they came and they hung-out and along the way they stuck and that was that.

My tribe arrived. MY TRIBE ROCKS….as in they are my rocks. The pieces in the foundation of who I am and why I can be strong.

I am a dork. Love you guys bye.

 

Don’t let the Worst people….

Don’t let them win. Don’t let people with an overall negative presence affect you negatively. There just seems to be so many of them out there lately!

I feel like its almost negative to write a post along these lines….when in theory people are more complex then just being a nice person or an mean one. I really just think something I have noticed lately about adulting, is that bullies STILL EXIST!!! I don’t know I guess I just thought that when people became ADULTS they grew a sense of MATURITY….where bullying wouldn’t be a thing anymore. But I GUESSED WRONG. lol

When bullies are mad. Practice staying calm.
When bullies throw a fit….try your hardest not to throw a fit back.
When their taddling on you….don’t taddle back.
When their gossiping about you…don’t gossip back.

Focusing your energy onto the negative will bring you just that.

AKA When they are doing anything to harm you…be bigger they are. Try your best to make the situation. One thing I’ve noticed lately it is that miserable people will go out of there way to cause problems for you. For absolutely no reason. They will make a problem for us to deal with just to because they are the WORST kinda of person. The best we can do is try to not let it affect us and not let us hurt who we are. Stand unwavering. 

Don’t let them fool you into thinking your anything other then what you are.
Its almost like some people exist to cause problems for us and their punishment is that itself. There are just some people out there that really cant help but be everyone’s problem. The universe does not hold you accountable for THEIR character.

Choose to continue to move forward on a positive foot and don’t let them win.

Choose to be the PEACE. Choose to lead.

Remember to Listen

Listening is a powerful tool when it comes to relationships and family life but is often taken for granted in a busy modern electronic device filled world…

I challenge you to pay closer attention to it and the affect can have in your everyday lives by making listening to the important people in your life a priority

BUT HOW????

At the end of your day reach out to your loved ones and see how their days went. Usually….This question is followed by a simple answer somewhere along the lines of…”It was okay…It was normal…It was good…”

Unless you have a talker on your hands who is in touch enough with their talking side. In that case they’ll just spill the entirity of their day and put it up on the table for all to see..

Sometimes peoole aren’t really sure what you want to hear about their day…some probing questions might be needed to encourage people into talking mode. 

WHY WOULD I DO THIS??? I WOULD RATHER BE WATCHING NETFLIX???

BECAUSE. IT IS IMPORTANT!!!!!!!!!

It keeps your relationships in a healthy place. It shows to the other person that you care about their day and how it went. It shows that you are interested in their life not just your own experience from day to day. It creates intamacy and a geunine care inside of your relationships with others. 

It makes everyone feel appreciated.

Appreciation is soooooo important. It shows the other person you appreciate them and that you are there for them. That you are a safe open place to come to when someone needs to talk. 

Ways you can probe into the details of someone else’s day? Come up with some questions 🙂 you should know your loved ones well enough to have something in mind…little details…

Ask them everything and listen. <3