When discussing the topic of being loved by others it seems many people have the belief that being loved is something that is EARNED and that are certain things we MUST do to up-keep LOVE by those who we give it to.
Amongst those wondering and fickle beliefs there are TRUTHS….and there are also LIES. Love is not something that has to be EARNED. I read once that it can only be given, but for two people to love each other they must be TRUE in nature.
It’s such a deep topic to stumble upon because there is really so much MORE to love and how we share/create it within our own individual and unique lives….yet CAN love be TRUE if we are not first TRUE to ourselves and others? With the ones we love? If they are true with us?
If we are untrue in our thoughts and actions, the way we carry ourselves even…that means our love is UNTRUE as well. It means our friendships, relationships, our families and everything we think we LOVE are built on a bed of broken truths. This is an extremely unsafe foundation for taking care of the people we love. How people can let this happen?
I have nothing left to give but fight for truth everything single time. Even if it hurts. Even if it makes everything more complicated. Maybe it was built into my design. I will always be a warrior for it….so when I see people sad and hurting because they are exhausted by trying to EARN love from others. I want them to slow down for a minute and realize that TRUE love cannot be EARNED. The people who love you…already love you for who you are every single day.
YOU ARE ALREADY LOVED. You DO NOT have to EARN it.
In some of my devotional notes recently I came across a topic that I don’t often come across…FEAR. Fearing what exactly?
—What we have to give and share with others in this world .
How many times might we have missed out on an opportunity to lend support, ideas, inspiration, encouragement, or our possibly biased but selfless opinions on how to go from here on out? It is probably because we fear the possible judgment and criticism that goes along the vulnerability of sharing it with others.
Although you may have to use your best judgement on what exactly you should share...in the long run what it really comes down to is whether you believe that what you have to give will positively affect that person and benefit/help others.
For example, I feel within the last year alone I have stepped up during times I would have normally been passive. In my head alot of the time I thought helping out just seemed too risky.
—Would my friends judge me?
—Are they going to interpret what I have to say in a way which is totally NOT what I am going for here? !
—Does it come off as too much?
—They are totally going to think I am nuts.
Just some random thoughts…you know that might pop up.
Over all lately I feel like I am ruthlessly not holding back in this department. Why? I took a couple pretty big leaps into the fearful abyss of what I had to give to others in the last year…and watching myself and others grow because of those leaps is probably one of the most rewarding things I have experienced. Not only do I feel stronger emotionally and spiritually…I have acquired lasting friendships built on a foundation of trust and hope. As well as friends and family who know I will be there for them no matter what.
Let others know….you are there for them.
Let them know they are loved.
How many times on social media have we seen our vibe attracts our tribe? Over and Over AGAIN.
There is so much truth to that. Better yet looking around me, I see that my tribe just kind of arrived on its own.
Alot has happened since I left highschool > went to college > moved into a house with my friends for a summer > moved back home >moved to my boyfriends town > and landed where I am right now. Looking back I notice the most important friends I have are people who just kinda appeared. They came at times when I needed them the most and they helped me grow in the ways they were meant to. I really believe that.
I know we hear it over and over again that everything is meant to be like that but do we ever actually take a step back to recognize it in our own lives?
THINK ABOUT THOSE PEOPLE. Who are they for you?
Do we even really realize how amazing our friends are? I mean I am so grateful for the people that have stuck by me. That’s the thing though they came and they hung-out and along the way they stuck and that was that.
My tribe arrived. MY TRIBE ROCKS….as in they are my rocks. The pieces in the foundation of who I am and why I can be strong.
I am a dork. Love you guys bye.
Don’t let them win. Don’t let people with an overall negative presence affect you negatively. There just seems to be so many of them out there lately!
I feel like its almost negative to write a post along these lines….when in theory people are more complex then just being a nice person or an mean one. I really just think something I have noticed lately about adulting, is that bullies STILL EXIST!!! I don’t know I guess I just thought that when people became ADULTS they grew a sense of MATURITY….where bullying wouldn’t be a thing anymore. But I GUESSED WRONG. lol
When bullies are mad. Practice staying calm.
When bullies throw a fit….try your hardest not to throw a fit back.
When their taddling on you….don’t taddle back.
When their gossiping about you…don’t gossip back.
Focusing your energy onto the negative will bring you just that.
AKA When they are doing anything to harm you…be bigger they are. Try your best to make the situation. One thing I’ve noticed lately it is that miserable people will go out of there way to cause problems for you. For absolutely no reason. They will make a problem for us to deal with just to because they are the WORST kinda of person. The best we can do is try to not let it affect us and not let us hurt who we are. Stand unwavering.
Don’t let them fool you into thinking your anything other then what you are.
Its almost like some people exist to cause problems for us and their punishment is that itself. There are just some people out there that really cant help but be everyone’s problem. The universe does not hold you accountable for THEIR character.
Choose to continue to move forward on a positive foot and don’t let them win.
Choose to be the PEACE. Choose to lead.